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I assumed you were going to ask me to read a manuscript Cleean help you find an agent, but instead you asked me about the sexual abuse alluded to in my books. You asked, quietly, if it had happened to me.
I wish I had told you the truth then, but I was too scared in those days to Claen anything. Too scared, too committed to my mask.
I responded with some evasive bullshit. Adio that was it. I signed your books. But more than that you looked abandoned. I could have said anything but instead I turned to the next person in line and smiled. Out of the corner of my eye I watched you pick up your backpack, slowly put away your books, and leave.
Like death itself was chasing me.
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It fucked up my adolescence. It fucked up my whole life. More than being Dominican, more than being an immigrant, more, even, than being of African descent, my rape defined me.
I spent more energy running from it than I did living. The rape excluded me from manhood, from love, from everything. The kid before—hard to remember.
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By the time I was eleven, I was suffering from both depression and uncontrollable rage.
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When I finally got up the nerve to ask her out and she said nope, it felt as though the world had finally closed the door on me. Because my one and only college acceptance arrived in the mail. But as I read that letter it felt as if the door of the world had cracked open again, ever so slightly. I often tell people that college saved me. Which in part is Housewives want nsa Toppenish Washington 98948.
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By junior year, I doubt anyone from my high school would have recognized me.
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The nightmares, the intrusions, the hiding, the doubts, the confusion, the self-blame, the suicidal ideation—they followed. All through college. All through graduate school. All through my professional life. All through my intimate life. Do you remember how during our chat at Amherst I talked about intimacy?Swingers Personals In Koosharem
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We never had sex. Not once. Every time we would get close to fucking the intrusions would cut right through me, stomach-turning memories of my violation.
I just said that I wanted to wait. I kept the Silence. After a year, we broke up. I tried eNw I tried and I tried. Took me until I was a junior before I finally lost my virginity.
I saw her first in a creative-writing class. I almost threw a party. The mask was strong.
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One day, for no reason at all, I found myself saying, We have to break up. There was absolutely no precipitating anything. I had just reached my limit. I remember crying my daya out the night before in those days I never cried.